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Thank you for visiting my site. At times, life can be overwhelming. We may go through difficult periods where we feel alone and isolated. Psychotherapy offers one way of managing such challenges. I have over 24 years of experience in providing psychotherapy to individuals and couples. I work from an attachment perspective, which holds that human connection is everything. Within a collaborative and supportive relationship, I believe each of us has the ability to overcome the obstacles we encounter. I approach each client with non-judgmental warmth, acceptance, and compassion and together, we work to access your unique strengths and resiliencies.

Please take a minute to browse this website and see why therapy from an attachment perspective may help you.

Call (215) 525-2112 for more information.

Teletherapy

Now accepting referrals for tele-therapy (via video meetings)

Due to the Covid-19 Pandemic, most clinicians have moved to videoconferencing sessions for the near future. I am using the HIPAA compliant version of Doxy.me. While not perfect, it functions well.

Appointments

Hours are by appointment.

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See our Services and Fees for more information.

Over the years, I have helped individuals and couples work through a wide range of concerns. Contact me if you are looking for help in:

  • Dealing with depression or anxiety
  • Creating more meaningful connections
  • Coping with a difficult relationship or going through a divorce (conflicts that can't be resolved, infidelity, etc.)
  • Managing grief and loss
  • Working through family turmoil
  • Navigating friendship issues
  • Negotiating life stage changes such as:
    • Life after college (the many changes that occur in friendships and relationships)
    • Managing the single world (internet dating, living in a couples’ world, etc.)
    • Beginning a new relationship or starting out in married life
    • Transitioning to parenthood (new identity as a parent, upheaval caused by the baby, role division in the home, deciding on career versus staying home, etc.)
    • Life after a divorce
    • Empty nest stage

"I believe that stress in relationships can be harmful to one’s psychological well-being. I work with the idea that people need affection and emotional connections and that part of the role of therapy is to aid in improving or creating connections. The therapeutic process creates insight into the effects of past relationships on present choices, actions, and feelings, and enables new and healthier patterns to develop in current relationships."

- Toni Mandelbaum


The Blog

Latest Posts

The art of quitting

 



Society tells us that persistence and perseverance pay off.  If the going gets tough, one should hold on, keep going, and not let go.  I’ve usually ascribed to this philosophy.  Even my doctoral dissertation was on grit, a construct defined by Angela Duckworth as maintaining passion and persistence when pursuing a long-term goal.  Through that process, I learned that grit was constructive, useful, and was most certainly related to achieving success.

Striving for "mediocrity" through radical acceptance, self-compassion, and gratitude

 


When I graduated college, a family friend said “Congratulations!  My advice going forward is to strive for mediocrity!”  I reacted strongly.  How could he say that?  I wanted to shoot for the moon, accomplish big things.  I dreamed of making a difference, having an impact.  Striving for mediocrity didn’t fit in with my vision of the future at all.  In the years that have happened since (too many to mention!), I’ve come to realize that this family friend was right.  If I get to the end of my life and I’ve achieved mediocrity, I have succeeded.

What your attachment style says about you

 


We are wired to connect with others.  We thrive when we have secure relationships, people we can depend on, trust, and turn to in times of trouble.  Ironically, though we are wired to connect with others, it is not always easy for us to do so.  Relationships are hard.  We get triggered by others.  We may feel overly sensitive to another’s moods and shut down.  We may close ourselves off because we fear rejection and this may ultimately cause us to be rejected.  We may exaggerate our needs to get another’s attention and worry that if we don’t put in 110%, a relationship will fail, but even with that effort, the relationship fails anyway.  Attachment theory offers us an understanding of why we often struggle in friendships and relationships. 

Are friendships attachment bonds?

 

Can friends be family?  Or at least, can friends serve as attachment bonds?  I have pondered this question over the years.  

Listening


 A few years ago, while on a tour bus of Soweto, the tour guide sat himself next to me, seizing the last remaining seat.  “Sawubona,” he said with a warm smile, as we drove from one destination to another.  “How are you?” he continued when I didn’t answer.  “Fine thank you, and you?” I replied perfunctorily, to which he said “No, Sawubona, really how are you?  I want to know!”